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A Time to Heal and a Time to Build Up

In Holidays, Recent Headlines on March 25, 2010 at 10:19 am

Something occurred to me this morning as I scrolled the news of the day and read the comments on my Facebook wall.  It’s time to walk  forward.

It’s easy to conjure righteous indignation, it’s easy to hold a grudge, and it’s quite easy to judge another. But what really are the benefits of such behavior? What is the outcome of tearing another down? What is the net result of holding a grudge?

Energy that could be used to positively affect change is wasted. I contend that neither side likes waste.

I joined a silly group this week on Facebook, it gave me quite a chuckle, I must admit. It was something about “reminding Rush Limbaugh to leave the country”. This morning, in light of my suggestions for forgiveness as well as asking for it, I realized the folly of even so much as a click to join such groups. Truly, what would membership there accomplish?

I know that both sides of the political fence have groups that mock and tear down the other side. We could spend all day discussing why the other side is wrong. But truly, is there a point? What if that same energy instead were used to promote why you believe your side is right, WITHOUT ever discussing what the other view thinks. WITHOUT denigrating them. What if we followed the rules of our grandparents, “If you can’t say something nice (and honestly, frequently, that’s a challenge for me), say NOTHING.”  To practice the art of being silent at appropriate times is challenging.

I am reminded of the viral news from last week’s health care protest in Ohio, involving a young father and a retired PhD with Parkinson’s disease. Yesterday, the poorly behaved man apologized and made a donation to his local Parkinson’s foundation. There has been a lot of debate about the sincerity of his apology, etc. It’s time to accept it at face value and move forward.

In the Christian world, we are approaching Holy Week and ending our 40 days of Lent. At the beginning of Lent, I issued a call to give up conditions on generosity.

At the end of Lent, I issue a different call. I would like to challenge all my readers to give up anger, give up negativity, give up resentment. I am asking you to rescind your membership in any negative, snarky group you may be affiliated with. Let. It. Go.

C’mon you can do it! We don’t have to publicly ask Rush to leave nor countdown to Nobama.  We don’t need to denigrate the other side to lift up our own views. We can join groups with a positive message and show the world we aren’t about petty infighting. 

Healing can start today.  The season is now.







Overcoming the Politics of Tragedy

In Military on November 12, 2009 at 10:50 am

For the past week, Nidal Malik Hasan has been a central figure in the media yet many of the reports have chosen to engage in combative analysis between political ideologies rather than cultivate talking points that nurture us toward unity. To me, this is disturbing.

At a time when we should be unanimously joined as a country in mourning, we have news outlets asking questions like: Was this a criminal act or an act of terror? Is political correctness to blame for these deaths or did the overwhelming stress of a pending deployment cause Hasan to snap? Yes, I see value in these questions as an analysis to the situation but not as an immediate response to the event and definitely not as a central discussion each and every day thereafter.

Unfortunately, sensation sells and with news outlets hurting for dough, the tendency is to stoke controversy above all else. It’s no secret that our post-911-culture possess predictable hot buttons and that pressing them draws dollars. I admit it. The moment I saw Hasan’s name, my conservative hot button lit up expecting to be pushed. I thought: “Let me guess. The guy is a radical Muslim!” I’m also pretty confident that there were folks on the left who heard his name and thought “Let me guess! The guy will be labeled a radical Muslim!”

This is the political predictability that our press depends upon and successfully exploits in order to keep us glued to their coverage. However, a factual baseline that our journalists just don’t seem to get is this: even though these thoughts of Islamic radicalism pricked our minds, those thoughts did not dominate us.

For most of us, our prevalent concern upon hearing the news of Fort Hood was heartfelt regard for the victims and their families. We immediately lifted them up in prayer and ached in tandem as citizens who, together, suffered loss. This is the real relationship amongst the American people and we will continue to seek our solace and healing together.